A month of Daring Greatly

by Rayna van Aalst July 02, 2017

A month of Daring Greatly

Today marks the launch of a series of monthly themes which will take you on a journey.

July’s theme – Daring greatly, is inspired by Brene Brown’s “Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead”.

A book I wholeheartedly believe everyone should read and re-read.

Why this monthly series?

“Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself” said once Coco Chanel.

But why is "being yourself" one of the most challenging things to do?

We wear so many hats - a mother, a woman, a daughter, a professional, a wife, a friend, and the list goes on and on.

Each of these roles also comes with a set of expectations we were raised with. It's exactly these expectations that make answering the question “who are you?” so difficult.

Being yourself starts with a decision but it’s most of all a journey of rediscovering who you truly are, what matters to you, what you want, what your most sacred dreams are.

Being yourself takes commitment, practice and a little bit of courage.

It's time to start peeling off the layers of expectations we carry and discover ourselves again.

Because when you have reconnected with your true self, you feel good and when you look in the mirror you’d see your most beautiful self.

Remember Knowledge isn't power;

it's potential power.

The monthly theme however is not a mantra, it’s rather a reminder to put what you already know or what you will learn into practice because let’s face it – how often do we read a book or learn something powerful but we never act upon it?

Start today.

“Daring greatly means the courage to be vulnerable. It means to show up and be seen. To ask for what you need. To talk about how you’re feeling. To have the hard conversations”.

Brene’s Top Ten for Living a Whole-Hearted Life!

  1. Letting go of what people think
  2. Letting go of perfectionism
  3. Letting go of numbness and powerlessness
  4. Letting go of scarcity and fear of the dark
  5. Letting go of the need for certainty
  6. Letting go of comparison
  7. Letting go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth
  8. Letting go of anxiety as a lifestyle
  9. Letting go of self-doubt and “supposed to”
  10. Letting go of being cool and “always in control”

I’d love to hear how you dare greatly!

Tell us about your moments of vulnerability in the comments below or on Instagram with hashtag #ReinaDaringGreatly (make sure to tag @reinaorganics too). You can also write to us at empowerment @ reinaorganics . com

At the end of the month, we’ll select three of the submissions (submitted here, on Instagram or by email) and we’ll send you a copy of the Brene Brown’s Daring Greatly (in English). 

We will donate €1 for every entry in this contest (no matter whether it's via Instagram, in the comments below or via email) to children in need in Bulgaria.

More on "Daring Greatly"

For the one’s of you who haven’t read Daring Greatly yet, here’s a jump start.

I also encourage you to watch Brene’s TED Talks – “The power of vulnerability” and "Listening to shame”.

Every time we are introduced to someone new, try to be creative, or start a difficult conversation, we take a risk. We feel uncertain and exposed. We feel vulnerable. Most of us try to fight those feelings - we strive to appear perfect.

In a powerful new vision Dr. Brené Brown challenges everything we think we know about vulnerability, and dispels the widely accepted myth that it's a weakness. She argues that, in truth, vulnerability is strength and when we shut ourselves off from vulnerability – from”revealing our true selves - we distance ourselves from the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives.

Daring Greatly is the culmination of 12 years of groundbreaking social research, across every area of our lives including home, relationships, work, and parenting. It is an invitation to be courageous; to show up and let ourselves be seen, even when there are no guarantees.

This is vulnerability. This is daring greatly.”

Some of my favorite quotes from "Daring Greatly"

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly. - from Theodore Roosevelt’s speech Citizenship In A Republic”

“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.”

“I define vulnerability as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure. With that definition in mind, let’s think about love. Waking up every day and loving someone who may or may not love us back, whose safety we can’t ensure, who may stay in our lives or may leave without a moment’s notice, who may be loyal to the day they die or betray us tomorrow — that’s vulnerability.”

“Even to me the issue of "stay small, sweet, quiet, and modest" sounds like an outdated problem, but the truth is that women still run into those demands whenever we find and use our voices.”

“Who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will do than what we know about parenting.”

“We judge people in areas where we’re vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we’re doing. If I feel good about my parenting, I have no interest in judging other people’s choices. If I feel good about my body, I don’t go around making fun of other people’s weight or appearance. We’re hard on each other because we’re using each other as a launching pad out of our own perceived deficiency.”

xo Rayna





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